How to Express Conservative Views Without Causing a Row

A Dutch gentleman hit me on the head with his bunched fist when I said I voted for Brexit. This bracing political exchange took place the day after Brexit at a party hosted by Remainers; it was supposed to be celebratory. The house in West London was full, and I remember only one other who admitted to having voted with the winning majority. Apparently, the thump on the head was a ‘joke,’ but the episode still makes me hesitate about sharing my political views. My heart palpitates and my tongue cleaves to the roof of my mouth when someone asks my opinion – am I brave enough to say what I really think?

By inclination I’m a Thatcherite in that I “don’t argue, I explain” and believe myself and my opinions to be right. It is an aggravating trait I have been told. Since the thumping episode, I’ve learned six prompts to help me during this general election express myself in ways that won’t invite physical violence.

Understand that in General Elections people generally vote the same way as their parents and families. To suggest the other political parties are morally reprehensible, batty or grasping socialists is to suggest that people’s beloved parents and grandparents are likewise. Therefore, never insult the other team.
Emote. People on the Right tend to prefer thinking to emoting, but relying on rational thought can come across as being ‘superior’ and no-one likes that. Swap “I think” for “I feel” – it immediately reminds the other person you are human too. Rather than saying “Emily Thornberry is demonstrably a hypocrite where education policy is concerned…” say, “Like Emily Thornberry, I feel for the plight of working-class children, but I feel they would be better helped by… etc etc”.
Empathise with your opponent’s fears: “I agree with you that voting for Reform feels reckless somehow, but continuing with the status quo frightens me more.”
Inquire. Reach out for your opponent’s help – people love giving advice. Ask politely, “What would you do? I’m conservative by inclination and feel the Government has let all of us down, whom do you think I should vote for?”
Joke. Once you’ve made your voting intention public, immediately lessen its impact with a joke: “I know, I’m ashamed too. Like a dog returning to its vomit, I shall be voting Conservative.”
Anticipate you will be called a fascist/deplorable nevertheless. When the insult inevitably comes, smile inwardly and understand you have won the argument.